Above: The difference in wedding proposals now and then, as highlighted in an ugly drawing from my personal notebook. Note the Roman numerals in the right frame. i) Fireworks in the sky, ii) Crowd consisting of friends and passersby, iii)There always must be a cameraman, iv)Yet even more random passersby and members of public who must be aware of the romantic gesture that is about to take place.
Recently in Singapore there have been a steady number of low-key stories featuring marriage proposals (STOMP, STOMP2, STOMP3, STOMPyetagain). I’m pretty sure every guy wants to pop the question (and every girl wants the question popped) in as memorable, romantic and unique way as humanly possible. But sometimes the content of the message can get lost in the framing. Maybe it’s because of narcissism, maybe its cause of the social media and the idea of; “if isn’t on film, it never happened” (or as it is said in Singapore, No Picture No Talk). But somehow I feel that proposing became less a romantic gesture between two people and more of a narcissistic act to show the world two things:
1. I love her THIIIIIIIISSSS much/my boyfriend loves me THIIIIIIIISSSS much.
2. I have THISSSSSSSSS much moolah to spend/ my boyfriend has THISSSSSSSSS much moolah to spend
Along the way I think it creates undue stress on both parties. Can you imagine the girl having to say yes because everyone is watching her? Can you imagine the pressure on the guy to plan something spectacular and please the girl? (Not to forgetting to appoint an official videographer for the event so the whole world knows about the proposal). Then there is the always the question of the girl saying no.
And this is just at the proposal stage! Can you imagine how grand (read: ego stroking) the wedding is going to be? Can you imagine the price tag? But then again hey, it seems that in this day and age, telling your significant other how much you love him/her isn’t as important as telling the world how much you love your significant other.
On a sidenote, I am aware of a similar article floating in the web with a similar angle. Someone beat me to the punch. Well sort of. Do you know what this means? Means I have to be more kilat (Malay slang, similar to “on the ball”).