Roses are Red, Valentine’s a boo
For many, Valentine’s Day is a day filled with images of love, friendship and perhaps most importantly, companionship with the one you cherish and care about. Unfortunately, that image is not exactly shared by the masses, and some hearts feel the exact opposite of love; loneliness and emptiness.
Alot of us inevitably feel sad that we don’t have a partner for Valentine’s Day. Worse still, some of us end up over-thinking things and start to ponder our self-proclaimed short-comings – a can of worms which really should not be opened.
Despite all this, many of us still feel that hollow sting when we see couples together and we don’t have anyone to call our own. How then do we get by? How do not feel like losers?
After being rejected numerous times and having my relationships explode in spectacularly ridiculous manners, I learnt that having fun is more important than having a relationship. That there were many more things important than merely settling for the simple dream of a happy family. Things like helping those in true dire straits and had no one else to turn to, or giving hope to someone who didn’t have any – heck, even putting a smile on a fellow man’s face.
Ultimately, I guess I learnt that love is not about holding hands, or feeling the human touch. While these constituted to the ideas of love, there were many other definitions of love. Love of mankind, of community, of nature. Love of oneself, to accept one’s short-comings regardless big or small. Love that is not the warm, fuzzy or sex based, but one that is based on humanity, compassion and self-belief.
Happy Valentine’s Day friend. 🙂